**Note: Yes, this is a photography blog, but sometimes I have to get personal. So, this is a personal post. With photos at the end. So, you have been warned.**
So, I challenged myself to a photo a day of my girls. So, I captured more of them. Of these little lives, that I love most, yet somehow rarely capture (I have forgotten my big camera at award ceremonies, end of the year programs, almost at her birthday party....). I have hard drives filled with memories, love, laughter from many amazing families, But, not really of my own family. So, I vowed to make a change. And yet, I failed. And the mom guilt set in at 10p at night.
All moms know Mom guilt. It can be over forgetting to pack a lunch, losing a favorite lovie, feeding your kid processed food, allowing too much electronic time or just not being able to make everything ok when you're child is going through something. Mom guilt. We as moms, for some reason, push towards perfection, which isn't a reachable goal, and when we fail to reach that we feel guilty. Are we really judging each other over these small things? Are we judging fellow neighborhood moms daily over their minor mom fails?
Let's stop that.
Let's stop judging and instead give a sympathetic smile. We've all been there. WE HAVE ALL FAILED.At some point or another. Do the kids look happy? Are they well fed (even if it is processed), safe, loved? Then the rest doesn't matter. Sometimes our mom guilt is real, we yelled too much because we were already stressed about other things. And we should apologize when we are wrong because we want our littles to do the same thing. But we have to help each other not sweat the small stuff. Remind each other, it happens sometimes and it's OK.
So, yes, this time my Mom guilt feeling was only over missing a day of capturing my girls and I went back the next day and did better. Small thing, that for some reason I beat myself up over. But yes, I have had WAY bigger Mom fails. Yet, my girls know I love them. And in the end. That's what matters most.
If you want to read a book that will help you understand your Mom fails more, and release you from overstressing, I suggest the book, "(Un)Natural Mom". It has a Parenting Style survey on their website Tall Trees Training, you can see your style of parenting, BUT she also releases you from being upset your not a different kind of parent. She shows the strengths of each type of parent. And how you are the RIGHT parent for your kid.
Well, time to be a good mom, volunteer in a classroom and bring my girls Publix subs for lunch. I hope any mom reading this does one thing today to feel like a good mom. Because YOU are the perfect mom for your kids. God gave them you for a reason. <3
Ok, now for the photos I did capture for my Photo A Day challange from this past weekend. And why yes, we did do a photoshoot in the bathroom because the light was awesome.
Write something about yourself. No need to be fancy, just an overview.